More Than Just Words: Why Declaration of Intent Should Be Felt, Not Repeated | Vancity Officiant Wedding Guide
- Vancity Officiant
- 6 days ago
- 3 min read
In many couples' hearts, the most unforgettable moment in a wedding ceremony is when they look into each other’s eyes and say, "I do." These two words, though brief, carry the weight of a lifetime commitment. But too often, this deeply meaningful declaration is reduced to a scripted "repeat after me" exercise—stripping it of sincerity and emotional resonance.
As independent marriage officiants, we believe your "I do" should be a heartfelt choice, not just a recited line. That’s why we use a ceremony structure centered on the Declaration of Intent—a legal and emotional affirmation that transforms your wedding into something truly personal.
What Is a Declaration of Intent?
The Declaration of Intent is the legally required moment in a wedding ceremony where both partners publicly confirm their choice to marry one another. It is often confused with wedding vows, but it is distinct—this is the part where you say, in your own way, "I choose you."
Unlike traditional commissioner-led ceremonies in British Columbia, which require couples to repeat government-mandated wording, our approach gives you space to respond in your own voice, simply and sincerely.
Not a Script, But a Moment of Truth
Couples often ask us nervously, "What will we have to repeat on the day? Can we practice in advance?" These questions reflect their thoughtfulness and desire to be present and prepared.
We always reassure them: there's no need to memorize lines. You don’t have to worry about getting it perfect. All you need to do is listen to the officiant’s guidance and, when the moment comes, say your truth—clearly, confidently, and from the heart.
Because the most moving words are not the ones rehearsed, but the ones you mean.
Emotion Is the Strongest Language
Our role as marriage officiants is not just about completing paperwork. It's about creating a space where emotions can be felt and expressed fully. We design your Declaration of Intent to reflect your unique story, personality, and bond.
The result? A ceremony moment that feels truly yours—not borrowed or scripted.
Our Signature Style: A Personalized Declaration of Intent
At Vancity Officiant, our Declaration of Intent is one of our signature offerings. It is legally valid in British Columbia and intentionally designed to reduce stress while increasing emotional connection.
You won’t be asked to repeat unfamiliar lines. Instead, you’ll listen to a thoughtful prompt, look at your partner, and speak your truth. The result is powerful: couples feel fully present, and guests often tear up at the raw sincerity.
Commissioner vs Officiant: What’s the Difference?
In BC, Marriage Commissioners are government-appointed and follow a set script. Their ceremonies are functional and consistent but can feel impersonal. You will need to repeat lines such as, "I solemnly declare that I do not know of any lawful impediment..."
As independent wedding officiants, we have the freedom to shape your ceremony around your values and voice. Our Declaration of Intent moments are adapted to your tone, language, and energy—creating something that feels real and true to you.
A Marriage Isn’t Memorized
We believe a wedding is not a performance. It’s a turning point. A sacred moment where two people pause to declare their intentions not because they rehearsed them—but because they mean them.
And when that happens, "I do" becomes more than just words. It becomes a promise you’re proud to make.
Looking for a wedding ceremony that feels sincere and uniquely you? Let us help you create a moment that reflects your real intentions—not just repeat someone else's script.
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